February 11, 2011

The Real World

Today's post is not design or DIY related. It's a glimpse into reality. Life isn't always pretty pictures and catchy phrases. Sorry to burst that bubble! I don't want this blog to be a bragging blog where I tell my readers about all the amazing things going on in my life and pretend like I never face any challenges. I chose to talk today about something that I think a lot of people can probably relate to, whether they have gone through it before or are currently experiencing this.

A friend of mine and fellow blogger wrote about something that I can completely, 100% relate to. I started to comment on her post when I realized that I myself was writing something that deserved to be a post all on it's own. She talked about her fear of putting herself out there to find a job and the procrastination that comes with that. Here is what I wrote below her post before I decided to cut and paste it into my own blog:

Every feeling and emotion you just expressed, welcome to my life the last few months! I know all too well how you are feeling. I was so fearful to put myself out there and look for a job. Afraid that I would be laughed at for trying to get a job somewhere because I don't have enough experience or if I did get hired, I was worried that it would turn out I was in over my head. You are so right when you say that fear is paralyzing. It absolutely is. I found every excuse not to look for a job. "Oh, I need to clean the bathroom and dust today." Haha, nice try. I had to stop feeling sorry for myself (I was getting a bit pathetic) and just get out there. Just as I was having a "poor me" moment, a great opportunity came up. It's only temporary and will end soon, but it's something for me to do right now. I've learned that I need to live in the moment. It's too daunting to look ahead and think about the future. Plus, my predictions for the future rarely pan out how I thought they would, so why bother predicting? Take it one day at a time. Confession: I had to literally give myself pep talks on a daily basis...and by literally I mean, I said them out loud! (Pathetic, I know!) Just remember to keep your head up and take it day by day....by day. (Name the movie I got that line from!) I am trying to stop taking myself and life so seriously. I've learned that I will mess things up and make mistakes. Like the time I was speaking with the owner of a company about a potential job and I stuttered...really bad. Nothing against people who stutter, it's just that I don't know that I have ever stuttered in my entire life? I wanted to say "wait, no! That's not me! Then press rewind and start all over. Unfortunately, in the real world my life doesn't have a pause or rewind button. You just keep going with it and try to laugh it off later (even if it's a half laugh, half cry out of pure frustration). My point is, there is no point in getting upset over stuttering. Just be you and learn to laugh.

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  1. Thank you, thank you, thank you for your wisdom... it's funny, now that I've "unfrozen" myself I'm actually having fun with this whole job-search business! I love what you said about living in the moment instead of worrying about the unpredictable future. The future laughs in the face of my perfectionism, I've seen it happen again and again.

    And I LOVE that you give yourself out-loud pep talks--me too!! Hilarious. This post of yours has given me some new quality material to recite in the mirror ; ) Thanks again!

    P.S. This would have been the most epic comment ever, haha! & thanks for the link love : )

  2. Kelley,

    You are such an amazing designer and person. When the time is right you will find a job. It seems like we are all in the same boat after school, not working exactly where we want to be. You have always been such a confident and upbeat person, you need to find that in you again! Best of luck in the job search!

  3. oh, Kelley you are incredibly talented and something will most definitely come up for you. I know exactly where you are coming from though. Job searching sucks but it all pays off in the end. keep your head up....everything will work out.

  4. Thank you - I truly appreciate the words of encouragement!